Start the conversations you want -- with anyone.
Get them curious.
Lately, the ability to start conversations with others demands exceptional skills.
Word skills. Not hooks. Not persuasive words. Not words promising "I can make your world better."
Attraction words. Curiosity-piquing words.
Not to set meetings; to start conversations about potential meetings.
But if use words snarky marketers use -- or push on pain points -- others tune out.
Because your message looks & sounds like everyone else's.
That's because you think like everyone else.
Being heard in a tuned out world
Repeated exposure to “I’m here to help you” being a lie creates a belief:
Most offers of help from strangers aren’t to be trusted. They’ve experienced enough fake sincerity to know -- it’s not real.
They automatically think, “Your offer to enlighten/help me is a ploy to serve you.”
That’s why people respond, “Not interested” or "We're all set" -- even when they need or are open to help. This response is caused by a belief… built on experience.
There is a better way. It requires changing your beliefs before helping others change theirs.
You are the problem
There’s a good chance you are (accidentally) using words that trigger the other side. They see you as selfish and condescending -- when your intent is pure and helpful.
They feel pushed away -- rather than pulled closer.
Let's change this. Awareness is the key. The rest is practice -- making using pull words a habit.
Be honest, open and willing to change how you communicate.
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